By Tracy Dingmann
So I see that Albuquerque Journal parenting columnist John Rosemond is coming to Albuquerque for a talk on Nov. 14.
I don’t think I’ll be standing in line for that appearance.
Rosemond, if you aren’t familiar, is known for his for his no-nonsense, traditional, Biblically-based parenting philosophy and approach to parenting (his words).
Among other things, Rosemond is a spanking advocate who ridicules the idea that adults should ever do anything to help children build self-esteem.
Though Rosemond is a psychologist, he believes psychology has done more harm than good to the American family because it encourages parents to needlessly coddle their children and causes them to neglect giving them the strict discipline they require.
Basically, if the most conservative wing of the GOP had a plan for tots, Rosemond’s would be it.
Not surprisingly, Rosemond has long drawn fire from mental health professionals, who say his policies are harsh and damaging to children.
I’m not a fan of Rosemond and personally, I don’t know anyone of my generation who is. Quite frankly, I consider him smug, cruel and hopelessly out of touch with the way life is today.
But the Journal just loves him. He’s been their only parenting columnist for longer than anyone can remember.
And I have a sneaking suspicion that I know why.
Because I used to work there, and I have to tell you. . . the Journal isn’t exactly a kid-friendly employer.
In Journal-land, you never, EVER bring your kids into the office (except once a year to sell Girl Scout cookies or for Bring Your Child to Work Day.)
If you have to stay home to care for a sick child –even if you are perfectly positioned to crank out a full days worth of work from home – you MUST take a precious sick day. Working from home is not allowed, at least for child-related reasons.
In Journal-land, it’s like children don’t exist. One of my Journal colleagues told me that she was admonished by her supervisor for calling in sick to take care of an ill child. The supervisor suggested that in the future, she should refrain from calling in that her child was sick, but to say she herself had been sick.
And just try suggesting flex-time to allow you to accommodate any academic or sports activities for your kids. Forget about it!
Over the years I lucked out with a few supervisors who were flexible, but as a company policy, empathy and understanding when it comes to children was not endorsed.
No, they’re not exactly surfing the current wave of corporate family-friendliness over at 7777 Jefferson NE.
So it really doesn’t surprise me that Rosemond’s been the Journal’s go-to parenting columnist for so long.
But it still bugs me.